“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.” (Luke 14:26, ESV)
It seems plain and simple: if you won’t hate your family and even yourself, you can’t be a disciple of Christ. Taking it to mean that you will no longer love others, however, can’t be right. After all, believers are commanded elsewhere in the Bible to love one another.
What must we make of this verse then?
It’s this: A believer’s love for Jesus should be so great that when you compare that love for other human beings, it would look as if he hates them.
[ from The Cost of Becoming a Disciple of Christ by Ptr. Jun Malazo ]